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“But My Family Needs Me!” 45

“But My Family Needs Me!”

One common reason why men, in particular, may delay getting help for addiction is the idea that they’re the breadwinner of the family and, without them, their loved ones will struggle to get by. While it’s well-intentioned and admirable to want to do the right thing for your family, it’s critical to understand that you’re not doing any favors for yourself or your loved ones by putting off the treatment you need.

Invest in Your Family’s Future

Being the breadwinner and being an addict in need of treatment are two diametrically opposed positions. The concept of being the breadwinner is rooted in the obligation to provide for your loved ones. No matter how capable you are of supporting your family financially at this time unless you address your deep-rooted problems with addiction, your usefulness already has an expiration date. You won’t be able to provide for them at all if your addiction leads you to financial loss, risky behavior, destructive decision-making, or overdose.

If it’s important for you to stay your family’s breadwinner, you’ll make the investment in your future wellbeing so that you can continue to work for them. Otherwise, you’re only hurting yourself and denying them their beloved family member in the long run. Insisting that you have things under control isn’t helping anyone. “Being a man” means doing what is right, even though it’s hard, and if you’re battling addiction, it’s not right for you to try to handle it in secret, leaving your family in the dark while your collective well-being erodes.

Be Open to Receiving Empathy

Another perspective that you might consider is the importance you place upon the way your family acts as a support system for you and your loved ones. No matter what your regular family dynamic is like now, things will inevitably change once you tackle your addiction. Even if you think your spouse or children are completely dependent upon you and would be opposed to any change in your operations as a unit, you may be surprised by the empathy and understanding they show you once you open up to them about your addiction.

Your family loves you. They want what’s best for you in the long term, not just the short term. If you need help, being honest with them about it will only lead to healing that much sooner. Don’t be afraid of rejection or misunderstanding. Your family are a vital part of your support network, and they’ll be there for you when you need it most.

Your Recovery is in Everyone’s Best Interest

Remember, the process of recovery isn’t just for you, but for your family as well. If you’re debating seeking help for addiction, chances are that your family may have already begun to notice changes in your behavior. You might find them to be relieved and even enthusiastic when you come clean. Once you take action towards improving your situation, your loved ones will rise with the tide.

Whether your family dynamic is one of the biggest factors motivating your recovery or is one of the reasons you’re digging your heels in, the only way to get on track to the life you want to live is to admit that it’s time to get help and fix your problem at the source. The only way to maintain your role in your family is to address your addiction head-on and achieve sobriety.

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

When you’re ready to get help and want to make sure your family will be considered an important part of the process, look no further than professional recovery services. Whether you’re considering inpatient or outpatient treatment, partial hospitalization, or rehab, a quality treatment program will recognize the critical role that your family plays in your progress. Treatment centers exist to provide services for you and your family that are designed to help you all get out of the shadow of addiction and move forward with your lives. 

It may be difficult or painful, but opening up the dialogue with your loved ones about your addiction and how you want to handle it will allow them to feel involved in a way that builds important trust. Give them the chance to be there for you emotionally. Nobody expects this to be easy for you. When it’s time to seek professional treatment, doing so as a unit will help keep your family strong and supportive of one another even in this trying time.

Being there for your family in the ways that matter goes beyond supporting them financially. You want to do right by them in the long term and ensure that you can do your part to enjoy a healthy, happy life with them for many years to come. Taking the step towards getting help now is an investment in your future well-being. You and your family are a unit who should encourage one another to grow into the best possible versions of yourselves and making the decision to get treatment should come with their full understanding. At Cornerstone Healing Center in Scottsdale, Arizona, we understand that having the support of your family and maintaining your ability to support them, may be at the forefront of your mind as you face this difficult time. We offer a personalized approach that uses evidence-based treatment to help you reach your recovery goals. Call (800) 643-2108 to learn more.

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